Learning what makes you happy is more important than trying to fit someone else’s idea of a successful life. How to deal? My older relatives who passed away were more accepting and understanding. Realizing you don't fit in with your family is difficult to handle emotionally. I just don’t fit in. But as I’ve grown older and started a family and career, it’s become an important part of my values to show up for others, for my friends, family, career, and myself, even when it’s not comfortable for me. They are very insular, very involved with each other, and very apt to causing problems amongst each other if the others don't fit into what they expect of them the instant they expect it. I’m trying to be a “better” person, and although I may not have any clue what the means, or how to go about doing it, I’m trying. I am in the same situation but instead of feelings of depression from this, I’ve accepted that I am always going to be the “black sheep”. But figuring that out as a teenager can be life-changing. My family (as in parents and siblings) don't talk to me much or spend time with me or tell me about anything that's going on in their lives or in the family. I have learned that its more important to work on being a good person. Don't try to force them to fit into who you want them to be. First I’d like to say I understand. Take me for example. To them, different equals bad. You state your opinions loud and clear. My family and I work on different levels. They're also passive aggressive in … 2. You don't fit in with the crowd, so you can't sit back and agree with a matter you don't believe in. Grow in your wisdom and spirituality. Of course, my family history does partly define me, but mostly not in the way that those people think. I … Subject: I don't fit in with my family at all and I'm stressed out. don't fit in with my family. You have an independent mind. Anonymous: Anonymous wrote:I've always felt like the black sheep per se. You do fit in with the family of God. Do good things to other people. I live with my father, mother and sister. I tend to be more outspoken than my peers, less religious, more bookish, more alternative… I ask “what is the truth”. I feel like a complete outsider in my family. Hi, I don't know if this is the right place to put this but I [20/f] have never felt like I really fit in with my family. The thing is, they're really lovely people. We don't always fit in with our families as much as we would like to. I yearned for acceptance, so I spent much of my time trying to be someone I wasn't. For me, it translated into a low self-worth, no self-esteem, and reckless behavior. Be happy with yourself. I used to handle it by doing my best to avoid groups where I didn’t fit in right away. I'm more nerdy and introverted, less religious, and more open minded compared to my family. 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